Sunday, July 20, 2008
WAKE-UP CALL
This was the thing that I spent a hundred over dollars on last Friday. Sarah Jessica Parker's Lovely Liquid Satin. I know I still have her Lovely perfume still but this is slightly different. It's called Lovely Liquid Satin and is supposed to be sprayed on skin for a baby smooth satin skin that smells, well, lovely. And they gave me free Jennifer Lopez's shower gel. So I cannot not buy it.
My Lovely perfume. Which is already half empty. Sheesh!
Lovely and Lovely Liquid Satin.
I'm getting Sarah Jessica Parker's Covet next. It smells freaking nice, I had to have it. She's fabulous.
Yesterday I had lunch with Rizal. Met him at Bugis and then walked to Tekka and had thosai! Haha. It was totally random. Then we went to Central Library and I borrowed He's Just Not That Into You - like again. I guess I needed a wake-up call. I borrowed "He's Just Not That Into You - The no-excuses truth to understanding guys" and "He's Just Not That Into You - Your daily wake-up call." I just love the book. Not only because it was from a writer and a consultant of Sex and the City, but also because it was written by both man and woman. So you really get both views.
It was really hard to read. But I guess sometimes you just got to accept the fact no matter how painful it is. We, women, always like to make excuses for those jerks. Like "Oh maybe he just needed a bit more time" or "He's busy" or "He just got out from a really bad relationship." But have we ever thought that maybe he's just not that into us? It's time we should.
A true wake-up call. A real hard knock on the head.
"All these years I'd been complaining about men and their mixed messages;
now I saw they weren't mixed messages at all.
I was the one that was mixed up."
"We go out with someone, we get excited about them, and then they do something that mildly disappoints us. Then they keep doing a lot more things that disappoint us. Then we go into hyper-excuse mode for weeks and possibly months, because the last thing we want to think is that this great man that we are so excited about is in the process of turning into a creep. We try to come up with some explanation for why they're behaving that way, any explanation, no matter how ridiculous, than the one explanation that's the truth: He's just not that into me."
"If a dude isn't calling you when he says he will, or making sure you know that he's dating you, then you already have your answer. Stop making excuses for him; his actions are screaming the truth: He's just not that into you."
"If a guy truly likes you, but for personal reasons he needs to take things slow, he will let you know that immediately. He won't keep you guessing, because he'll want to make sure you don't get frustrated and go away."
"He's just not that into you if he's not calling you. Men know how to use the phone."
"So if a guy you're dating doesn't call when he says he's going to, why should that be such a big deal? Because you should be dating a man who's at least as good as his word."
"The next incredible guy we meet with the really good excuse is just another guy who's hurting our feelings."
"If he's not calling you, it's because you are not on his mind."
"You deserve a fucking phone call."
"Cheating is cheating. It doesn't matter whom it was with or how many times it happened."
"Let's call cheating what it is: a complete betrayal of trust."
"This is going to be controversial, but I am going to say it anyway. No matter how powerful and real your feelings may be for someone, if that person cannot fully and honestly return them and therefore actively love you back, these feelings mean nothing."
"You already have one asshole. You don't need another."
"Oh sure, they say they're busy. They say that they didn't have even a moment in their insanely busy day to pick up the phone. It was just that crazy. Bullshit. With the advent of cell phones and speed dialing it is almost impossible not to call you. Sometimes I call people from my pants pocket when I don't even mean to. If I were into you, you would be the bright spot in my horribly busy day. Which would be a day that I would never be too busy to call you."
"Busy is another word for "asshole." "Asshole is another word for that guy you're dating."
"If the guy you're dating doesn't seem to be completely into you, or you feel the need to start "figuring him out," please consider the glorious thought that he might just not be into you. And then free yourself to go find the one that is."
So have you ladies found your answer? I know I have. Because no answer is your answer. You know what ladies? Let's just shop. Haha.
After the whole library thing, Rizal went off to meet his girlfriend and I went to meet Ina for dinner. Hei Sushi at Downtown East for us. De-li-cious.
After dinner, we got some chocolate-covered waffles for dessert and walked home. Yes, walked all the way from Pasir Ris Downtown East to Tampines. We're that crazy.
now I saw they weren't mixed messages at all.
I was the one that was mixed up."
"We go out with someone, we get excited about them, and then they do something that mildly disappoints us. Then they keep doing a lot more things that disappoint us. Then we go into hyper-excuse mode for weeks and possibly months, because the last thing we want to think is that this great man that we are so excited about is in the process of turning into a creep. We try to come up with some explanation for why they're behaving that way, any explanation, no matter how ridiculous, than the one explanation that's the truth: He's just not that into me."
"If a dude isn't calling you when he says he will, or making sure you know that he's dating you, then you already have your answer. Stop making excuses for him; his actions are screaming the truth: He's just not that into you."
"If a guy truly likes you, but for personal reasons he needs to take things slow, he will let you know that immediately. He won't keep you guessing, because he'll want to make sure you don't get frustrated and go away."
"He's just not that into you if he's not calling you. Men know how to use the phone."
"So if a guy you're dating doesn't call when he says he's going to, why should that be such a big deal? Because you should be dating a man who's at least as good as his word."
"The next incredible guy we meet with the really good excuse is just another guy who's hurting our feelings."
"If he's not calling you, it's because you are not on his mind."
"You deserve a fucking phone call."
"Cheating is cheating. It doesn't matter whom it was with or how many times it happened."
"Let's call cheating what it is: a complete betrayal of trust."
"This is going to be controversial, but I am going to say it anyway. No matter how powerful and real your feelings may be for someone, if that person cannot fully and honestly return them and therefore actively love you back, these feelings mean nothing."
"You already have one asshole. You don't need another."
"Oh sure, they say they're busy. They say that they didn't have even a moment in their insanely busy day to pick up the phone. It was just that crazy. Bullshit. With the advent of cell phones and speed dialing it is almost impossible not to call you. Sometimes I call people from my pants pocket when I don't even mean to. If I were into you, you would be the bright spot in my horribly busy day. Which would be a day that I would never be too busy to call you."
"Busy is another word for "asshole." "Asshole is another word for that guy you're dating."
"If the guy you're dating doesn't seem to be completely into you, or you feel the need to start "figuring him out," please consider the glorious thought that he might just not be into you. And then free yourself to go find the one that is."
So have you ladies found your answer? I know I have. Because no answer is your answer. You know what ladies? Let's just shop. Haha.
After the whole library thing, Rizal went off to meet his girlfriend and I went to meet Ina for dinner. Hei Sushi at Downtown East for us. De-li-cious.
After dinner, we got some chocolate-covered waffles for dessert and walked home. Yes, walked all the way from Pasir Ris Downtown East to Tampines. We're that crazy.
While we were busy taking pictures, there were like about 2 groups of mat motor who slowed down, smiled and waved at us. Like whaaaaaaat the hell. About 6 bikes. 3 bikes per group. Sempat k drg. Tsktsktsk.
Well, good time. Lots of food and lots of walking. And not to forget, tons of reflections.love,
nadia
sin-fullybeautiful.
